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Answers to common questions about ejaculation in general:

1- How can I solve the problem of non-controlled ejaculation during sleep?

These ejaculations are linked to erotic dreams during the phase of paradoxical sleep (phase of sleep with intense cerebral activity and repeated every 90 minutes). There is nothing to do in order to control the ejaculatory reflex. In general, this problem disappears with age and sexual activity in non-sleeping period.

2- Although I am not dreaming at night, in the morning my bed is stained with semen.

Everybody is dreaming at night, even if you have no memory of your dreams. These dreams if they are erotic, can lead to an ejaculation. This is frequent for teenagers, for men who do not have a partner and who do not masturbate.

3- I am 19 year old and I cannot have more than one ejaculation per evening, is this normal?

To get a second ejaculation during the same evening, it is necessary to have a stronger sexual excitation than the one of the first sexual intercourse. For this, your partner needs to excite you more, or you need to use your phantasms, phantasm being the essential mainspring of excitation. 

4- Since 1 or 2 months, I have noticed that I have brown spots in my sperm. What is it? Where it comes from?

These brown spots can be blood. It is necessary that you see your doctor in order to have a semen analysis.

5- Is it normal that the sperm volume decreases with age? I am 60 years old.

Yes, the sperm volume decreases with age (from 45-50 years old).

6- Just two small questions: Is it normal that the color of my sperm is yellowish and that some sperm remains in my sex after ejaculation?

Yes, it is normal that the sperm is yellowish and that some sperm remains in your urethra after ejaculation. This means that it is important that you do not penetrate your partner without using condoms, immediately after ejaculating outside the vagina, because there is a risk for your partner to get pregnant!

7- When I am excited, there is a liquid, which comes out of my urethra just before ejaculation, is it sperm?

No, it is pre-ejaculate (also know as "pre-cum"). It is a fluid from Cowper's glands. This fluid does not contain spermatozoon but can carry sexually transmitted infections.

8- My partner does not ejaculate and it is of psychological origin according to his doctor. Therefore, he produces seminal fluid and has a good erection when we have sexual relations. Do you think that I can get pregnant with this seminal fluid (his penis is "wet" before and during the penetration)?

I think that the liquid that you are talking about is pre-ejaculate (also know as "pre-cum"). This fluid comes from Cowper's glands and does not contain spermatozoon.

9- I am very embarrassed when I talking about my problem: I ejaculate quickly and after I do not have erection anymore. What can I do to solve my problem? I do not feel like a man because of that. Is surgery can solve my problem?

No, surgery cannot solve premature ejaculation. It is important to know that after ejaculation there is a period where an erection is not possible (refractory period). You need to treat your premature ejaculation problem first, and then you will feel better. Have a look at the treatment part where I deal with premature ejaculation treatment.

10- When I have daily sexual relation, I notice that the volume of my sperm is decreasing whereas I thought it was the opposite.

Effectively, in contrary to what you thought, ejaculate volume decreases with increasing ejaculation frequency.

11- Is there a type of food, which increases the volume of the ejaculation?

No. As far as I know.

12- I am 39 years old and since I started to have sexual relations, I have notice that after few days of sexual abstinence, during the next sexual relation, my ejaculation was painful. What can I do?

Painful ejaculation is abnormal. You need to see your doctor.

13- Is it possible to ejaculate several times in a row?

Yes, it might be possible but after ejaculation, there is a period called refractory period. During this period, it is impossible for a man to have a new erection and a new ejaculation. This period is short for a young man and increases with age. If you ejaculate several times in a row then your ejaculate volume will be less important.

14- When I ejaculate, my sperm only dribbles out. How can I get it to shoot?

If you can learn to contract your perineal muscles, you will get your ejaculate to "shoot".

15- Is it dangerous to block the hole when ejaculation is about to happen?

It is "not" dangerous; however, it is better not to do it because repeated practice of this technique might be responsible of pain and unwanted problems with future ejaculation.

16- Is it possible to suppress the ejaculation desire? If so, how can I do it?

It is difficult. The only way is to stop the excitation.

17- I ejaculated and just after, I penetrated my partner. We did not use any contraception. Is there a risk for my partner to get pregnant?

Even after ejaculation, few drops of sperm can remain in the urethra. If the penetration occurs just afterward, those few drops might get out into the vagina. This risk can disappear if you take the time to pee between your ejaculation and the penetration.