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Answers to common questions about erection:

1- How do I know if I have a proper erection?

You have a proper erection if your penis is horizontal when you are in a standing position and if your penis points up toward your navel without manual help when you are in a lying position.  

2- My partner has sexual breakdowns and I do not know how I should behave towards him?  

Sexual breakdowns happen to all men one day or another and you should not worry or make fun of it because if your partner is a little anxious by nature the fear of a new breakdown during your next sexual intercourse, can be responsible for a new difficulty of erection. Therefore, if you realize that your partner does not have an erection, caress him without imposing penetration at all costs and you must not over dramatize this failure.  

3- I am 74 years old and I do not get erections any longer, is it normal at my age?  

You should not think that. A man can get erections until a much greater age; you need to consult your doctor if that affects your couple.  

4- First of all, I would like to thank you for this service and I would like to ask you some advices and remedies for my problem: my penis extends very slowly and even sometimes not at all, and ejaculation is instantaneous. Thank you for your answer.  

Your problem is the one of premature ejaculation with some difficulties of erection because of the fear of failure of your sexual intercourse. If you do not treat your premature ejaculation, the risk is to have more and more difficulties to have a proper erection.  

5- I am a homosexual. I met my partner 15 days ago. Our first two sexual intercourses were very successful because I had erections and ejaculations. It was great. However, these last two days I have not managed to get an erection. Yesterday evening, during our sexual intercourse, I succeeded in ejaculating, but practically without an erection. Is it normal? How can I overcome this problem? My boyfriend says that it is not very serious.   

Occasional sexual breakdowns are frequent with heterosexuals as well as with homosexuals, for various reasons, which it would take too long to enumerate. It is frequent that after an occasional "breakdown", a man concentrates on his penis during the next sexual intercourse to check if he has an erection or not. Moreover, he disconnects himself from the eroticism, which comes from his partner, thus preventing him from having an erection. Therefore, you need to forget about your sex organ in order to have an erection, and just focus on the eroticism, which emanates from your partner. The less you will thinks of your penis the better your erection will be and the reverse is true too the more you think about it and the worse it will get!  

6- My problem is a bit the opposite of lots of men that is to say I have very frequently some erections (when I am kissing my partner, when I am seeing a girl naked!, etc...). I would like to know if there is a solution to my problem as it can be sometimes very appreciable but in fact, it is very embarrassing. Thanks a lot in advance.  

You are perfectly normal and probably quite young to have some erections easily! There is nothing in particular to do except to tell your partner that you can be excited very easily. If it is too embarrassing for you, change discreetly the position of you penis in the direction of navel (by using one of your hand in the pocket of your trousers) and block it with the elastic of your underwear.  

7- My partner often loses his erection when I put on his penis a condom, what should we do in order to avoid that?

This is quite frequent because men do not really like condoms! A good way to avoid this is to start with a manual stimulation, such as masturbation, with one hand. In the same time, with the other hand, you will start to put on the condom. Keep on unrolling the condom while masturbating the base of the penis or you can take the glans in your mouth and stimulate it while unrolling the condom.