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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
 
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Answers to common questions about male homosexuality,
gay sexuality:

1- I was told that homosexuality was a sexual deviation. Is it true?

No. Homosexuality was removed, since few years, from the classification of deviations and sexual perversions. Homosexuality is now considered as a normal sexual practice although being still in the minority in comparison with heterosexuality.

2-Can we be a fag and have sexual relation with women?

Personally, I do not really like the term of fag, which is very pejorative. You should exclude it from your vocabulary and replace it by homo, for example. YES, a homosexual can have sexual relations with women if he is not exclusively homosexual. Exclusive homosexuals really like women as friends but are not attracted by them sexually.

3- My boyfriend told me that gay men are homosexuals because they are afraid of women.

Not at all, gay men like very much women but are not attracted by them sexually.

4- Can we become homosexual when we get older around 40, 50 years old?

You must be very young to say that people are old when they get 40, 50 years old! Men and women often question their life when they get 50 years old, and actually, it is not rare to see a man or a woman becoming homosexual at that age.

5- Is there a gene of homosexuality?

No, homosexuality does not have a genetic origin; there is no gene of homosexuality.

6- When I was a boarder at college, I had rather often sexual contacts with other boys in the dormitory. Since this period, I do not have any more attraction for men. Am I a repressed homosexual?

Homosexual contacts are very frequent, during the teenager period, for boys just as for girls. It is more a question of satisfying a very strong sex drive and discovering news sensations than homosexuality. Therefore, you are not a repressed homosexual!

7- How can we know if we are going to become homosexual or not?

There are no evident signs to know in advance our own sexual orientation. In fact, it is very often after some sexual relations with both sexes that we discover our true affinity. However, some homosexuals say that their homosexual tendencies exist since a long time whereas others discover it only late in their life.

8- My boyfriend likes when I introduce a finger into his anus. Does he have homosexual tendencies?

The anus is a very sensitive zone because it has a relatively high concentration of nerve endings and for some it can be a very erogenous zone. Between the pleasure of an anal penetration by its partner and homosexuality, there can be a world! So do not worry, your partner can like the penetration of your finger, without having homosexual tendencies.

9- When I masturbate, I do sometimes think about athletic naked men. In the reality, women only attract me. Am I a repulsed homosexual?

It is difficult for me to answer to you, but I do not think that you are a repulsed homosexual. Your fantasies on athletic men can be the witness of your unconscious desire of identification to this type of men, without any homosexual desire. On the other hand, we have all a male and female part in us and maybe for you it is this female part, which expresses itself during the masturbation.

10 - I am a boy of 17 years old. I would like to know if it is normal to get excited by a picture of a male sex and even to be able to ejaculate, without being homosexual.

At your age, it is normal, because the sex drive is very strong in the adolescent period or the end of adolescence. It is later that your eroticism will be directed more on a sex than on the other one, or sometimes on both (for bisexual).

11- I am a married man and I am ok with it. However, I am very attracted to men and penises, and I really enjoy sodomy. Do you think that I am bisexual or that it is just phantasm? Do you think that I should try to have sex with a man?

It is very difficult for me to answer to your question because, effectively, it can only be a phantasm. However, it is often after homosexual experiences that you will know if you are bisexual or not. Unfortunately, I do not have advice to give you on these homosexual experiences because only you can decide if you want to have those experiences or not.

12- Hi, I am homosexual and I never had sexual relation with women. I would like to be heterosexual. Is it possible?

Yes, why not. You should try to have sexual relations with women in order to see if the pleasure you get with women is as strong as the one you get with men. These experiences will tell you if you can be heterosexual (you have to enjoy it) or if you are homosexual, or bisexual.

13- I am 15 years old, and I noticed that I am more attracted to boy than to girl. However, my goal in life is to have a family and a wife! Can I become heterosexual?

You are still young and maybe sexual experiences with women will change your sexual orientation. Sexual experiences with women will tell you if you are homosexual, heterosexual or bisexual.