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Answers to common questions about male masturbation:

1- I masturbate daily because I do not have a partner now; can that be harmful to a future relationship?

It all depends on how long you have been practicing this daily masturbation. Indeed, if it has been going on for several years and if you are not a teenager anymore, you might be use to a mode of arousal and sensations that are different from the ones you can get with penetration and so, you are likely to have some difficulties to ejaculate during sexual relation with a future partner. If this practice is recent because you currently don't have a partner and that you are looking for one and that you masturbate in order to evacuate a sexual tension, I don’ t think it will do any harm to your future relationship.

2- I am 19 years old and ever since I started having sexual intercourses with some partners, I have had to be stimulated manually to get a proper erection. I was not use to have this problem before though, but I must admit I used to masturbate a lot. Can you help me?

If you used to masturbate a lot before having sexual intercourse with a partner, you have conditioned yourself with strong and direct erotic stimulations on your penis in order to get an erection. There are techniques to "recondition" you and discover eroticism based on the body caresses, eyesight, smell and phantasms.

3- I have some sexual relations, which are quite frequent and totally fulfilled since several months with a partner, but what worry me is that he needs sometimes to masturbate while watching porn movies. What do you think about that? 

Man sex drives are generally more spontaneous and more frequent than woman sex drives. Besides man has eroticism more visual than the one of the woman, and because of this porn movies interest generally more men than women. Let your partner masturbate and watch porn movies as long as this does not happen to the detriment of your couple sexuality. In addition, why not watch with him these movies, which can causes sexual relation, between you, even more exciting?

4- Hello, I am a man of 25 years old. I used since several years to masturbate a lot that is, sometimes, up to 20 times a day and this always while watching porn movies. It looks like if I have an important libido. Mentally, I am quite tired of that excessive libido but I cannot help it. I have to say that I do not have a partner and that I am single since almost 2 years. However, even when I had a partner, I felt the need to masturbate but less often. Is there any drug to subdue this libido? Should I go and see a doctor?

Your masturbation is compulsive, probably due to anguish that a psychotherapist could find (castration anguish?). There is no drugs that you can take in order to decrease this libido (some drugs exist but generally they suppress completely libido). A consultation with a psychotherapist will help you to understand and solve your problem, which gets on your nerves. 

5- I am 24 years old and I meet my first blonde-haired woman three months ago. She told me that during the night, I waked her up sometimes by giving out some little noise and that she noticed that I was masturbating. I never realized it because I am sleeping. I doubt that this is normal and I would like to know what I could do to avoid this. Ps: This situation can occur even if we made or not love before to sleep.

Masturbation, during dreams periods, at the time of sleep, is not abnormal and quite frequent in young peoples who do not have sexual relation, or who start a sexual life with a partner. It is due to a sexual excitation quite strong, linked to the discovery of the sexuality. I can reassure you, this is not going to last a long time because quite quickly your excitation is going to temper itself. You can also ask your partner to wake you up, on that occasion, in order to make love! 

6- I would like to know if masturbation plays an important role on the development.

No, masturbation does not decrease the physical and psychological development of men or women and does not favor it either. Therefore, masturbation has no effect on the development. 

7- I have heard that masturbation make people deaf is it true?

Even if I am convinced that you already know the answer to that question, I am going to answer to you seriously: NO, masturbation does not make people deaf or blind! 

8- Masturbation soothe my anguish, it is like a tranquilizing drug. I do not have a partner at that time and I ask myself if I will have to keep on masturbating when I will have one?

It is difficult for me to predict the future, but I think that orgasm obtained by masturbation or by sexual relation with a partner is a very good tranquilizer and the best of all sleeping drugs.

9- I am a man of 39 years old and I do not have a partner at that time. I daily masturbate and I do it in a sadomasochistic way such as red-hot wax on the glans, pliers on the testicles, etc. Should I go and see a doctor for this sadomasochistic tendency? 

If this tendency disturbs yourself then you should see a doctor. You should also avoid that this tendency asserts itself too much because this could be a problem with a future partner. You might have some difficulty to have some pleasure by penetration with a future partner and only get some pleasure by violent masturbation. You could go and see a psychologist.

10- I am 20 years old and I asked myself if masturbate can decrease my desire to make love with my partner? 

No, if your masturbation is not too frequent because at your age the recovery after ejaculation is quite rapid. 

11- Is it normal at 65 years old to want to masturbate thinking of phantasms whereas I have a wife to whom I really love to make love? 

Masturbation is not a practice only for young people. It is normal to feel like masturbating at 65 years old and still have phantasms!

12- Can frequent masturbation (several times a day) lead to sterility by sperm exhaustion? 

No, whatever the frequency of masturbation your sperm cannot be exhausted because it reconstitutes itself systematically. On the contrary, a too frequent masturbation as well as some too frequent sexual relations decreases, temporally the quality of the sperm. A good quality of sperm is obtained with sexual relation every two to three days. 

13- Hello, I do not have a partner right now and I am used to masturbate once a week. I know some friends who did not masturbate since 6 months and some who masturbate daily. I would like to know if it is better to masturbate daily or not at all. Is it a sign of perversity to masturbate every day?

No, masturbate daily, when we do not have a partner, is not a sign of perversity. Sexual drives are different from on person to another and it is why the frequency of masturbation depends on everyone. On a medical plan, masturbation is not harmful unless it becomes excessive and compulsive.