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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
 
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Answers to common questions about sadomasochism:

1- I am married since two years and I do not understand what my wife wants. At the beginning of our relation, I was used to tie her hands and now when we have sexual relations she asks me to hurt her. I would like to know what she wants and what I should do.

First, you should talk with your wife in order to understand what she wants! You could first start with some gentle slaps or smack her bottom in order to see her reaction then talk about it with her before to go further.

2- I have a partner since two years and I just discover that he often spends time on sadomasochist web sites. I have the impression that he likes when women dominate men. Besides, he likes that I am on top of him during the penetration! I never told him that I discover what he watches on the Net. How to talk of this problem with him because I would not mind to dominate him sexually as in the everyday life of our couple he is the dominant!

You need to tell your partner that you have discovered what he watches on the Net. Tell him that you both could play to sadomasochist games during your sexual intercourses and you will see his reaction. If this idea does please him, you could start by taking the initiative of the sexual relation by ordering him to undress and to put himself in dominated positions before to start to gently slap him or smack his bottom.

3- Where can I found sadomasochist club?

You can find club address on the Net.

4- How can I tell my partner that I like to be dominated?

Just start by asking him what he thinks about domination and then according to what he answers you could tell him that you would like to be dominated. Do not rush him; just let him time to think about it if his answers is not the one you expected.

5- I am a man of 39 years old and I do not have a partner at that time. I daily masturbate and I do it in a sadomasochistic way such as red-hot wax on the glans, pliers on the testicles, etc. Should I go and see a doctor for this sadomasochistic tendency? 

If this tendency disturbs yourself then you should see a doctor. You should also avoid that this tendency asserts itself too much because this could be a problem with a future partner. You might have some difficulty to have some pleasure by penetration with a future partner and only get some pleasure by violent masturbation. You could go and see a psychologist.