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Clitoris: This unknown to men!
Clitoris anatomy: Brief reminder
Clitoris: women reproaches about men caresses
How to caress clitoris?

Many women blame men for not knowing how to stimulate their clitoris. Usually, men only caress it to increase their excitation just before penetration, whereas women would like quite often that these caresses bring them to orgasm (clitoral orgasm). Besides, many men do not know how to give their partner clitoral orgasms.

Statistics

In fact, statistics are not in favor of men: 90 to 95% of women manage, alone, to reach an orgasm by clitoral stimulation, whereas 40 to 45% of men, only, manage to give their partner orgasms with clitoral caresses.

Possible explanation?

A possible explanation could be the selfishness of men who want that their partner reach orgasm only with their sex and it is difficult for them to accept that women can have some pleasure without penetration!

Clitoris is part of what we call the vulva, which is located near the anterior junction of the labia minora, above the opening of the vagina. On both sides of the vaginal opening, there are two folds of skin, the labia minora turned in, and the labia majora turned out. In front of the vulva (if the woman is standing up) or in top (if the woman is lying on the back) is the clitoris. Only the clitoris glans is visible. It has the size of a little currant. The external side of the labia majora is covered with cutaneous tissue, which is covered with pubic hair. The external and internal sides of the labia minora are without pubic hair and covered with a mucous very vascular and innervate, which is characteristic of an erogenous area.

To be able to see and touch the clitoris, it is necessary that the woman has the thighs slightly opened. It needs to spread the labia majora then the labia minora and to come back up between the labia minora because the clitoris is located at the union of the labia minora under the hood that you will need to uncover delicately. With the finger, the clitoris is perceived as a little bulge.

The clitoris anatomy is quite close to the one of the penis: it is made of two erectile tissues, a glans, a frenulum and a hood. The clitoris glans, especially, is very innervate, very vascular and contains several pleasure receptors, which is characteristic of a very erogenous area.

The vulva and the clitoris, like the penis of man, are swelling of blood during the excitation. In contrary to the penis, the clitoris is not run through the urethra and the sexual differentiation made it a smaller organ because it is not suppose to penetrate. Nevertheless, it is an organ in its own right, which is not, pejoratively, an atrophy penis, as men too often say it even if its anatomy is similar! The resemblance is only anatomical because his sensitivity is almost at the opposite of the one of the male sex.

To well caress the clitoris, it is important to know the reproaches that women direct to their male partners:

•He makes too quickly for the clitoris, without preliminary approaches.

• He does not caress me; he is rubbing me and is irritating me.

•He is pressing too hard on it.

•He does not find the right rhythm and his caresses are, from the beginning, too quick.

•He is changing too often of rhythm in his caresses.

•He does not excite me long enough and would like that I come immediately.

In fact, many men caress the clitoris of their partner in the same way as they were used to masturbate, which is with strength, firmly and rapidity. Women like the opposite: gentleness, subtlety, delicacy and no haste.

Clitoris, unlike the penis of man, is a very sensitive organ, who hate to be touch before to have reach its exterior and without to have already start a beginning of sexual excitation. So avoid the brutal attack manual or oral at the clitoral level without having already excited your partner with more diffuse and generalized caresses. Do not forget that you should always start at the periphery of the erogenous area before to make progressively for it. No caresses of the vulva without generalized caresses first and no clitoral caresses before caresses of the vulva.

Your fingers, moisten with your saliva as lubricant, will run first around the vulva then will progress in the fissure between the labia majora and the labia minora, then around the entrance of the vagina. The caresses will be gentle, not too pressed in order to not rub, and you will keep paying attention to the pleasure or displeasure expressions of your partner. 

After spending few minutes around the clitoris, and when your partner will have a sufficient excitation you will be able to touch it lightly.

The most sensitive areas of the clitoris are the glans and the frenulum, which is located under the glans. But, it can also be the hood which covers the glans.

The glans of the clitoris is very sensitive so it is sometimes better to caress it thought his hood, or between the labia minora, because a too direct contact can be sometimes painful. The caresses should be made over a quite large surface, and not be limited in order to avoid to press too hard or to rub. 

Always start with very gentle caresses and a slow rhythm before to increase the pressure or the rhythm of your caresses.

The most appreciated movement by women is, often, a circular movement around the clitoris, or backward and forward movement, from the top to the bottom, in the vulva axis.

The caresses rhythm should be constant, without stopping, so do not change of hand or finger during the caresses. This rhythm will be increased as the woman will come closer to orgasm.

Just before the orgasm, the clitoris will retract under the hood, and it is often not anymore perceptible under the finger, but you need to keep on caressing it at the same spot, at the same rhythm and not looking for the glans in order to not break the tempo, which will bring your partner to orgasm.

During the orgasm, it is necessary to keep caressing your partner even if she squeezes the tights. You will stop only when she will ask you to.

For oral caresses, the principle is the same but the caress can be made directly on the glans because the contact is gentler with the tongue than with fingers. You can kiss the vulva as if you were kissing your partner on her lips, move your lips on her labia, run your tongue over the all vulva and suck between your lips the labia of your partner. The tip of your tongue can run in the fissure between the labia majora and the labia minora as well as at the entrance of the vagina. You could also run your tongue outside the vulva, close to the anus or close to the veneris mons.

Do not forget to use your free hands for complementary caresses on some other parts of the body, which will accentuate the pleasure of your partner.

Finally, you should know that every woman is different so you will have to let you guide by your partner who will show you what she likes the most: gentler, harder, quicker, more up, more down etc. At the beginning, you could let your hand be guide by her hand.

To conclude, remember that clitoral orgasm is as strong, intense and agreeable than vaginal orgasm. It is not a "pseudo-orgasm" contrary to what have said some psychoanalyst at the beginning of the century. Both orgasms are slightly different but one is not "better" than the other is, every woman has their own preferences.