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Masturbation definition
How many people masturbate?
How to masturbate?
Is masturbation harmful?

Masturbation is still a taboo subject for many people, which feel embarrassed about it and see it as wrong.

Masturbation is the self-stimulation of the sexual organs, most often to the point of orgasm. Masturbation also includes the use of sex toys and non-genital stimulation such as nipples.

Recent reports suggest that 80 to 85% of women and 90 to 95% of men masturbate or have masturbated at least one in their lives.

Masturbation frequency peaks around puberty (2 to 3 times a week for boys and 1 to 2 times a week for girls) and might continues throughout adulthood, even when other form of sexual activity are available.

Note that women tend to start masturbating later in life than men.

There is no age limit on masturbation, no one is too young and no one is too old.

There are numerous masturbation techniques and the most common is, for both sexes, the direct stimulation of the external genital organs (penis and vulvo-clitoral area).

For men, masturbation of the penis consists in touching the penis with the hand and making vigorous up and down moves. The direct stimulation of the glans can be made at the beginning but rapidly becomes very sensitive and unpleasant when the excitation becomes stronger.

For women, the direct stimulation is made at labia minora level (specially the internal side) and around the clitoris, avoiding the clitoral glans, which is very sensitive when the excitation becomes stronger. The woman manual moves are slower and gentler than man moves. Generally, the woman hand goes from labia minora to clitoral area to the entrance of the vagina, the other hand can, in the same time, press the mons veneris or caress the breasts (the only stimulation of breasts gives rarely an orgasm).

Others women use the technique of pressure at the mons veneris or stomach level and clenching the thighs and buttock in the same time.

To note that many young girls have their first orgasm by climbing up a rope, cycling or by pressing strongly the thighs (woman own technique).

For men as for women, besides the use of the hand, many objects can be used to caress the sex: rubbing on sheet, towel, pillow, doorframe etc. It can be the insertion of objects in the vagina or anus (such as banana, cucumber or dildo, vibrator) but also the use for men of inflatable doll or for women the use of Geisha balls in the vagina.

For both men and women, the rhythm and the pressure of the caresses increase with the excitation until the orgasm.

Women like men usually accompany their masturbation with erotic phantasms. Phantasm being the essential mainspring of excitation!

No, masturbation is not harmful to your health and does not make you go blind or insane, shunt your growth or give you hairy palms or acne. If all this were true then half the population would be blind dwarfs with acne and hairy palms!

There is no medical risk to masturbate as long as, it does not become an obsession that disrupts your life.

Note that it has been demonstrated that boys who used to masturbate quickly tend to suffer from premature ejaculation later in their life.

Masturbation is quite advice for adult men who do not have a partner during a long period, to avoid a risk of sclerosis of erectile tissue. It is also advice for both men and women in order to keep a cerebral erotic activity, which can disappear with time.

An advice for women who had never reach an orgasm: the best way to reach an orgasm will be to masturbate because it is easier to get an orgasm by masturbation than with a partner. It has been noticed that women who suffer from vaginismus and anorgasmia did not really masturbate during their childhood.

Finally, for a couple, it can be an element of mutual eroticization or a different pleasure, which should not be missed.

Masturbation is a supplement to intercourses, not necessarily a replacement, in many healthy sexual relationships.

Learning to masturbate is in many ways taking control of your sexuality. It is the best way to learn how to orgasm. Besides, knowing your anatomy and sexual responses is key to enjoying great sex with a partner.

To conclude a word about petting (caresses between two partners): the technique is the same as for masturbation, so do not forget, Sirs, that you should not only caress the clitoris of your partner, that you should be gentler during your caresses and be listening to what your partner say and to what she is expecting from you. Talk together about your desires and your pleasure and never forget that what please some women does not necessarily please others.